Actress Big S ended her 10-year marriage with Wang Xiaofei in 2021, and the marriage change incident was fierce. In the past, Wang Xiaofei once attracted the hot conversation among netizens because of "Why don't you live with your parents-in-law?", and her mother-in-law Zhang Lan often joined the battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which made the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law tight. In this regard, the well-known lawyer, Liu Qiu, published a letter from the world and said that for the husband who is not separated, divorce is right, and divorce is curing all diseases.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem is the biggest question for many women after marriage! Not only is the daughter-in-law worried about being incompatible with her mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law also worried about being separated from her daughter-in-law. Ji Qiu has given her mother-in-law 10 pertinent advice, hoping that the mothers who are about to become mother-in-law can become a popular and good mother-in-law!
Although it is very hard for a daughter-in-law to become a mother-in-law for many years, please do not extend the pain to your daughter-in-law! Ji Qiutian reminds the mother-in-law around you, or the mother who is about to be a mother-in-law, to be a normal mother-in-law, and the so-called "normal mother-in-law" actually focuses on the mind, not the method. Please treat your child as an independent entity and learn how to let go. If you all want to stand out for the "child", that is, if you still treat that "adult" as a child, it will become two women who are quarreling for an immature child, and there is no such meaning.
If you still cannot adjust your mind immediately, it is recommended that your mother-in-law do at least the following 10 points:
Point 1: Please do not persist in living with your son and your daughter-in-lawIt is best to take them out. Even if they can only rent a house, it is their business. The remote distance beauty ensures that your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a good relationship.
Point 2: Don’t treat your daughter-in-law as a daughterAs long as you treat her as your son’s wife or your friend, that’s fine. You can treat your son as a minor forever, but please treat your daughter-in-law as equal respect. If you tell her, she will remember her. In this world, only her mother can control her, and her mother is not you.
Point 3: Any behavior of your daughter-in-law is nothing to do with youYour daughter-in-law is not interested in buying things, loves to watch Korean dramas, likes to slide on mobile phones, does not wash clothes and cook, has bad habits, does not like to organize your home, does not bring children, etc., it is nothing to do with you. That is between your son and her, and your son's affairs are not about you. He is really an adult.
Point 4: If you live together, please respect each otherDon't touch the things of their husband and wife, do not help them wash clothes and cook, and do not help bring Shuzi. Unless your daughter-in-law asks you and you are willing to help you, just take it into consideration. Handle their own affairs and don't bother you.
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Point 5: The couple quarreled, please don’t hear thatDo you quarreled with your husband? Do you hope your mother-in-law will intervene? If you don't want it, would it be strange if you intervene now? When my son complained, he said that his wife was kind to me and immediately forgot. As for complaining between daughter-in-law and wife, I'll give you a few more sentences to your son.
Point 6: Xuezi's father is your son and daughter-in-law.Xuezi's father is definitely not your husband and you. It is not ideal to teach each other in another. As long as they can, they should take care of their children, especially not to teach their children's rights. No matter how you don't take it, they will suffer.
Point 7: There is no need for a daughter-in-law to be filial to youThe one who should be filial to you is your son. Please train your son to become a decent man and help you get along with your daughter-in-law. The good things your daughter-in-law treats you must always keep in mind. You must forget the good things you treat your daughter-in-law treats you immediately.
Point 8: Don’t borrow money from your son and his wife, don’t say “make sure to get absolutely ties with your son” and you should also get the money back. To borrow money to go out to the teacher, you must have the mental preparation that you can't get it back. Moreover, what should I say if there is no evidence of money transaction?
Point 9: Plan your retirement life moreDon't focus on your children. Even if your life is half over, there are still many interesting new things to learn. It is your mission to make your old age more brilliant. Please spend all your property before you die, and don’t let it become a property.
Point 10: Shuzi is not your family'sShuzi is your son and daughter-in-law's treasure. Please recite it automatically three times. Being a good mother is not easy, but being a "good mother-in-law" is very simple. Please give me a simple 8-word oral phrase: "Look at but not see, listen to but not listen." When you get old, you can pay more attention to your life, instead of always paying attention to the affairs of your son and your daughter-in-law. I believe that your mother-in-law's life will be better. Please believe that Sun Fu is his own, and it is important to take care of himself!